Dealing with an Anger Point

Here's a few tips that I've found that help me deal with the anger issue:

1. Don't say anything you'll regret.
He/She will, but that doesn't give you the excuse to do it.
2. Walk away for a while.
I never believed in walking away from a fight. Distance and time helps here ALOT.
3. Wait until the anger has subsided and talk to them in a different fashion.
Never come at a situation as an attack "You did this or You did that" is never the way to go about it.
4. Look for the good in them.
Remember why you were with them in the first place. I have a favorite memory of our wedding day that I tuck away for days like this.



Also, there's another issue that my husband has exhibited, even longer than the PTSD symptoms. Fibromyalgia.

While some doctors still don't acknowledge that it exists, I will assure you it does. Fibromyalgia is often more prevelant in women then men, but I think it's because men are not as willing as women to say when they hurt and there doesn't seem to be a cause for it. I think that the two go hand and hand.

Some signs and symptoms:

Pain issues: The pain is muscle and joint problems. Weak ankles, soreness in the wrists and arms. General aches and pains all over with no explanation as to why.

Focus issues: People who used to keep things clear and clutter free, maybe someone is used to always putting tools away and suddenly they're letting their tools lie out in the rain.

Sleeping problems: This is in combination with the PTSD because with PTSD they have issues with nightmares and light sleeping so that they can listen for the enemy.

Tired: They are often tired throughout the day and when the pain is worse, they sleep more.

Mood Swings: They can go from angry to perfectly fine. As if nothing ever happened.